Lately, I’ve been pondering something: what would happen if we could no longer ask each other questions? Bear with me for a second as I tangent.
You spend a lot of time overthinking, don’t you?
Decisions that should be simple become exhausting mental marathons. You weigh the pros and cons. You cycle through every possible outcome. You analyse, reconsider, and then analyse some more. And by the time you finally make a decision, you’re drained—and often still unsure if you made the right call.
I get it because I do it too. I can spend hours spiralling in over-analysis, wasting energy instead of just deciding and moving forward. Some decisions require deep thought, but not everything does. Some things just need a simple, confident choice so you can move on. But when you’re stuck in your head, that clarity feels impossible.
So, what if you could break the cycle? What if you could stop overthinking and start actually moving forward?
The Overthinking Trap You Keep Falling Into
You might tell yourself that overthinking is just part of who you are. You like to be thorough. You want to make the right choice. But what if I told you that overthinking is actually a form of avoidance?
When you overthink, you delay taking action. You stay stuck in the 'what ifs' instead of making a move. Why? Because action is scary. Action means committing to something. And when you commit, you risk failure, judgment, or regret. But staying stuck in your head? That feels safer - even if it’s exhausting.
Here’s the problem: the more you overthink, the more you teach your brain that uncertainty is dangerous. Your mind becomes conditioned to believe that if you just think a little bit longer, you’ll find the perfect solution. Except perfection doesn’t exist. And all that extra thinking? It’s not helping-it’s holding you back.
The Solution: Decide and Move
The best way to stop overthinking is to start making decisions faster. Sounds terrifying, right? But here’s the truth: you’re far more capable than you give yourself credit for.
Try this: when faced with a decision, ask yourself, What would I choose if I trusted myself completely?
Then do that.
Yes, really.
Most of the time, your gut instinct is right. But because you don’t trust yourself, you second-guess it. You go searching for validation—through research, through overanalysing, through asking ten different people for their opinions. And in the end? You still feel uncertain.
Instead of looking for external reassurance, practice trusting yourself. Make a choice. Stick to it. And remind yourself: If I get it wrong, I’ll handle it. Because you will. You always do.
The Power of Asking the Right Questions
One of the most valuable tools in breaking free from overthinking is asking the right questions—not ones that keep you stuck, but ones that move you forward.
Instead of: What if this goes wrong?Ask: What if this goes right?
Instead of: What’s the perfect choice?Ask: What’s the best choice I can make right now with what I know?
Instead of: What will people think?Ask: What do I want for myself?
Shifting your questions shifts your perspective. It helps you focus on action instead of analysis paralysis.
Outgrowing Relationships That Keep You Stuck
As you start trusting yourself more, something interesting will happen: you’ll notice that some relationships don’t quite fit anymore.
Maybe you have a friend who always makes you doubt yourself. Or a colleague who undermines your ideas. Or a family member who constantly questions your choices.
When you grow, not everyone will grow with you. Some people will resist the change. Others will try to pull you back into the version of yourself that overthought everything and played small. And this can be painful.
So what do you do? You get clear on your boundaries. You decide who you want to be and who gets to be part of your journey. Some relationships will evolve with you. Others will naturally fade. And that’s okay.
Instead of clinging to what no longer serves you, start filling your space with people who support your growth—people who challenge you in a good way. Who make you feel strong, not small. Who don’t need you to stay stuck in old patterns to feel comfortable.
Taking Back Your Power
You don’t need to have all the answers before taking action. You don’t need to overthink every little thing to make the “right” choice. You just need to trust yourself enough to decide and move.
Because the truth is, confidence doesn’t come from thinking. It comes from doing. From making choices, learning from them, and proving to yourself that you can handle whatever happens next.
So today, I challenge you:
Stop looking for the perfect answer. Pick the best one available and run with it.
Replace overthinking with action.
Trust yourself more than you doubt yourself.
Your future self is waiting for you on the other side of all that overanalysis. Go meet her.
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